a feeling or understanding that someone or something is important, relevant, serious, etc., and should be treated in an appropriate way.
Respect is one-sided.
Respect is selective.
Respect is overrated.
Children respect their parents, students respect lecturers, the poor respect the rich, employees respect their employers, servants respect their masters. That’s life. Respect is reciprocal? Don’t be a clown 9ice.
If this is so, why don’t parents respect the privacy, opinion, choices and property of their young?
Why can’t the student know a bit more than the lecturer?
Why can’t the poor wine and dine with the rich?
Why is an employee a robot and puppet to his employer?
Why is the servant his master’s footstool?
To be honest, everybody desires respect. It comes with a lot of perks. But then, what do you have to offer to become relevant to the other person? In other words, who you epp? Respect is simply not for everyone. Ask the man who fails to cater for his family or who performs woefully in “the other room”. Trust me, he may be loved but hardly is respected.
The Yoruba tribe in Nigeria is very respect-oriented and extremely courteous. I’m from Osun state so I would know. Respect here is centred majorly on two things- proper service and appropriate greeting.
Proper service implies that you’re an inferior to your parents and everyone else that’s older and must serve them, making sure you’re not heard. Appropriate greeting means you must greet every adult with the mandated gesture of kneeling down if you’re a girl or prostrating if you’re a boy. Just don’t stand or worse sit while greeting a Yoruba adult. This perception of respect is portrayed and passed down generations.
Yet, my village people, family and relatives expect me to succeed in a world where I’m to act responsibly and not kneel down to greet an adult or elder like an illiterate would. A world that places a buffet before me and expects me to pick as I desire whether or not the adults have had their fill. A world that hands me a microphone and a platform to speak with sincerity of heart and clarity of mind, even before the turn of the adults and in the presence of the elders. Here, age is just a number but experience, skill and knowledge are golden. Respect as the old see it is overrated. Thus, it becomes a clash between the urban and rural, the old and new, the ancient and the modern.
Old things have passed away; all things are now new…
It’s the new age.
Published by Hosanna Respect-Adusa and Great Respects Hosanna (Opara)